Creating Change, Tools & Coping Strategies

Be Well Message

Dear Guests, I hope you all are doing well and staying safe with the coronavirus scare. In times like this, it's not easy to stay healthy, be positive, and find moments of laughter or joy to balance the fear, frustration, or other negative sensations that may rise. For people who enjoy being active outside and/or interacting with others face-to-face, this is an especially challenging time. Being confined alone or with others for extended periods of time can bring out the best and the worst in relationships or highlight things we've all tried to ignore or deny about ourselves and each other. Tempers get roused easily. People react and act to stuff they normally wouldn't. Maybe out of fear. Maybe out of frustration. Maybe the stressful times are their version of an excuse for behaving in such ways? Please remember that we still have choices. We can choose react from a position of fear-based choices. We can to argue and fight and lose our tempers. Be angry at the world and socialize and continue with our routines like nothing is going on (denial). We can ignore government mandates and health authority warnings. We can let prejudice rule our opinions and influence our interactions with others. We can choose to feel and express anger in ways that hurt ourselves and the people around us. Or we can choose to to react from a position of love-based choices. We can use effective communication and compromise strategies. Use Active Listening skills to to ourselves and each other. Check in from a position of love and acceptance. Be kind to ourselves and each other no matter how scared or stressed out we feel. And most important, express our fear, anger, shame, or other negative emotions in healthy ways that support us and the others around us instead of hurting ourselves and those other people. Sometimes we might not have choices in how we act or react. Instinct and learned behavior (i.e. survival skills) override everything else when we feel overwhelmed or pushed too far. In situations like that, when "the damage is done" we till have choices to make. We can pretend nothing happened. We can continue to escalate the negativity and cause more damage to an existing relationship until nothing is left. We can acknowledge the situation and try to make reparation and/or amends or listen with compassion to the other party and work out a solution. We can acknowledge our part in what happened, reflect on the situation, and work out ways to prepare for future ones. Maybe preventative actions or a coping strategy? But no matter what, we humans are a resilient species. And we can survive this. We will survive and learn to thrive in the changed and changing world. I believe in you. Please believe in yourselves too.

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Sensory Movement Challenge Day 7: Dance Like No One’s Watching; Sing Like No One’s Listening; Laugh Like You Mean It; Stay Safe Wherever You Are — Untangled Connections

This is the last day of the Sensory Movement Challenge. Tomorrow's Facebook Live will wrap up what's happened this week and allow guests to ask questions. Remember there is always a way to stay connected and social no matter where you are physically. Please be safe and careful. Use your intuition and sense to make healthy choices. Then on to other topics.

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Sensory Movement Challenge Day 6: Funny Faces, a sleepless night, and dancing plants — Untangled Connections

This is more of a funny post/story than like the others. Life is too stressful and scary right now to be serious about everything. Laugh at me or with me, but I hope it brings you a smile.

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Sensory Movement Challenge Day 5: An Energy Healing Circle and Jars — Untangled Connections

Reflection This morning’s healing circle helped me understand the purpose of this challenge and the purpose of being vulnerable and putting myself out there for the Facebook live session on Sunday. I am open about not being a “people” person. And that’s true to an extent. I have many difficulties physically being around people. That… Continue reading Sensory Movement Challenge Day 5: An Energy Healing Circle and Jars — Untangled Connections

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Sensory Movement Challenge Day 4: Working from the Inside Out (aka energy work/internal body movement)

This post discusses movement from a meditative or internal perspective. If you saw me doing this, you would think I was sleeping or meditating or both because the parts of my body you can see weren't moving. This type of movement exercise requires an open mind, body awareness, resilience, and trust or faith in self and a higher power for guidance/support. Read if you like, but skip otherwise. This blog is about offering practical options and resources, not causing stress or problems or anything else.