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Movement Challenge – I tried to make a video and can’t get it to work on WordPress; will try again soon

I made an unedited "live" video for tonight, but don't know how to compress the video enough to make it look good here on WordPress. Every time I upload, it looks fuzzy and blurry and takes forever. Not sure you'd even be able to watch it.

So I'm going back to the thinking board tomorrow to try again.

Today, though, I'll share some thoughts about coronavirus:

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My container garden
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Preparing for Failure: Adventures of a beginning gardener

Gardening is a memory/flashback trigger because many of the women in my family were/are gardeners and our relationships are complicated. Then there were the in-class experiments during elementary, middle and secondary school that sometimes worked, often failed and made me an easy target for bullying because gardening and plants were boring and un-cool compared to anatomy and physiology. Or all the people constantly telling me I had a black thumb and was responsible for killing so many plants/hurting animals and people. Or that I was too slow and should just stay away because I was getting in the way of their work. Lots of negative messages around gardening and working with nature, something I've always enjoyed. I was the girl with the rock collection who loved the science museum and walking barefoot on the lawn. The girl who watched bugs and let them crawl on her (until the trainers used that as punishment and torture so now I feel anxiety any time they get too close) while investigating the trees and plants in her neighborhood.

These days, I can acknowledge that people from my past most often shamed and ridiculed me about my activities when it was something I showed talent for or was good at in some way.

And that is part of why I want to start gardening. I love plants and enjoy being around them. They create community and offer companionship in their own unique ways. It's a symbiotic or mutually beneficial relationship between the plants and me (or myself?) where we take care of each other in a shared home environment. The plants bring color, life, clean air, sometimes food, and beauty into our home. In return, I provide shelter, water, warmth or cool air, nutrition, music, and some pest management.

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A Little Faith Goes a Long Way: changing perspective

A Story in Three Parts Faith. Belief. Will - Something Greater than oneself There once was a girl who gave up on everything. Herself. Life. Humanity. All of it. She existed in a place between worlds, deep inside her mind where only dreams and nightmares could penetrate the shield separating her from every day reality.… Continue reading A Little Faith Goes a Long Way: changing perspective

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Work, life, mental health: coming out

Scent Reflections - helping others re-define success

There are many people like me out in the world. We are successful and independent, hiding in plain sight to avoid the negative reactions associated with mental illness. 

Not everyone ends up an addict or homeless or a criminal or something else as bad. Not everyone struggling with trauma or mental illness or addiction has to be dependent on others or stay in unsafe situations because that's all they know or think they deserve.

There are resources to help people and their connections cope with life after trauma. Because survival is hard, but re-adjusting to life after trauma is the real challenge.

  • More important, trauma exists because change exists.
  • Not everyone who experiences trauma develops a mental illness.
  • People who don't experience trauma can develop a mental illness.
  • All people cope with stress in their lives.
  • How we (people) cope with stress defines whether or not it is
    • positive or negative
    • mental health or mental illness

Stress = human response to change

Lots of people focus on the trauma survivor, the victim, the addict. Who looks to that person's friends/family/connections and offers them support too? They are just as traumatized; their lives permanently changed in trying to maintain relationships with each other and the survivor/victim/addict/(your label here).

I am not an expert by any means. Not a therapist, medical or mental health professional. I do not diagnose, treat, or tell people what to do.

I am a student of aromatherapy and western herbalism working to earn her certifications and credentials while working full time, starting a small business, running a resource blog and website, and living life.

What I can do, what I want to do is empower others manifest their health and wellness goals through aromatherapy, education, and support (aka consulting services). That is my goal with Scent Reflections