Tools & Coping Strategies

Resilience and Strength in knowing who we are and what we have is enough

Acknowledging a problem I've been having a lot of conversations with family, co-workers, providers, friends and mentors about life in the "new" world. Many of my family members and friends live in "hot spots" like New York and Massachusetts. They are not young, and some fall into the "vulnerable" group. More than a few relatives… Continue reading Resilience and Strength in knowing who we are and what we have is enough

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Aromatherapy, Herbs & Herbal Medicine

Diffusers, homemade chai, and sleep

This week was rather rough for me. Body memories kicked in, and I started feeling sick with a head cold or sinus infection without actually being sick. It used to happen more often, but not so much anymore. Part of why I go to Chinese Medicine is because acupuncture helps manage symptoms like this. Since I can't go there anymore, it's been interesting learning what I can do at home to cope instead. Read on for tea and diffuser recipes

Integration

Crystals & Crystal Grids: Change your Environment by Changing the Energy flow

Decorating is not a strong point for me because I always feel constricted by the lease rules. And have fear triggers about putting things on walls. Triggers about creating art and displaying my preferences outside of my head. That makes me feel vulnerable because I'm claiming a space as mine. And because I'm practicing self care by doing this. Decorating a home, for me, means taking psychology coping techniques and strategies meant for my mind and applying them to my physical world. It means creating an alter space for mediation and spiritual practice too. In other words, practicing integration of mind/body/spirit. ------------------------------------- he nice thing about crystals and crystal grids is that they lie on flat surfaces and do not take up a lot of space. You can use a pre-made grid or create your own groupings. You decide on the types of crystals you use, color combinations, and sizes/shapes too. If you don't want them flat, you can put them in bags and hang them on walls or door knobs. You can turn them into wired cage jewelry or sculptures too if you know how to work with metal or other materials.

Creating Change, Tools & Coping Strategies

Be Well Message

Dear Guests, I hope you all are doing well and staying safe with the coronavirus scare. In times like this, it's not easy to stay healthy, be positive, and find moments of laughter or joy to balance the fear, frustration, or other negative sensations that may rise. For people who enjoy being active outside and/or interacting with others face-to-face, this is an especially challenging time. Being confined alone or with others for extended periods of time can bring out the best and the worst in relationships or highlight things we've all tried to ignore or deny about ourselves and each other. Tempers get roused easily. People react and act to stuff they normally wouldn't. Maybe out of fear. Maybe out of frustration. Maybe the stressful times are their version of an excuse for behaving in such ways? Please remember that we still have choices. We can choose react from a position of fear-based choices. We can to argue and fight and lose our tempers. Be angry at the world and socialize and continue with our routines like nothing is going on (denial). We can ignore government mandates and health authority warnings. We can let prejudice rule our opinions and influence our interactions with others. We can choose to feel and express anger in ways that hurt ourselves and the people around us. Or we can choose to to react from a position of love-based choices. We can use effective communication and compromise strategies. Use Active Listening skills to to ourselves and each other. Check in from a position of love and acceptance. Be kind to ourselves and each other no matter how scared or stressed out we feel. And most important, express our fear, anger, shame, or other negative emotions in healthy ways that support us and the others around us instead of hurting ourselves and those other people. Sometimes we might not have choices in how we act or react. Instinct and learned behavior (i.e. survival skills) override everything else when we feel overwhelmed or pushed too far. In situations like that, when "the damage is done" we till have choices to make. We can pretend nothing happened. We can continue to escalate the negativity and cause more damage to an existing relationship until nothing is left. We can acknowledge the situation and try to make reparation and/or amends or listen with compassion to the other party and work out a solution. We can acknowledge our part in what happened, reflect on the situation, and work out ways to prepare for future ones. Maybe preventative actions or a coping strategy? But no matter what, we humans are a resilient species. And we can survive this. We will survive and learn to thrive in the changed and changing world. I believe in you. Please believe in yourselves too.