Tools & Coping Strategies

Self Care Challenge 1/23/2020 (late) – Respectful Social Interaction

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Late because of unreliable internet; will post again later with today’s entry

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Action: Be friendly, respectful and assertive in all social interactions (movers, building managers, doctor office, neighbors, etc.) using the Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) techniques.

Intention: Use DBT to manage my social anxiety and PTSD-related communication triggers so that I can be successful communicating and interacting with a variety of people on moving day.

Reflection: Yesterday was difficult in many ways. I had less than 5 hours of sleep and spent the whole day on the go: interacting with the movers, meeting new people in the new building, chatting with a friend on the way back to the old apartment, cleaning out and getting a late lunch, going for my Chinese medicine appointment, getting dinner, and finally home to the new place around 7PM.

Late dinner. Call to my parents to let them know I was home safe. Try (and fail) to use building’s public WiFi to watch a movie. Decide not to fight the network and post on the blog. Crash into sleep in a cold apartment because still getting used to the heat settings.

Overall this challenge was a success. I did not start having issues until the end of the day when I felt safe enough to start relaxing – so during my Chinese medicine appointment. I have been going there for 3 plus years, so was comfortable letting them see and hear my anxiety. See as in the way I moved. Hear as in my rapid speech and hoarse voice.

The downside to putting that much effort into being social for 12 hours without a break is incredible physical pain. Headaches, muscle tension and stiffness, cold & flu symptoms, lack of appetite, nausea, feeling cold from the inside out, and sinus pain all hit hard. Today the pain has eased, but the headache, stuffy nose, and hip/back pain continue.

Not the first time this happened. Probably not the last either. And the pain was less this time compared to the other times. I stayed conscious. I did not have panic attacks. And I managed to eat/drink fluids.

Will I do this again any time soon – no. Was it worth the effort – yes

Reflection questions: would you be willing to pay a steep price to be successful? And what do you consider a steep price, but still worth paying for if the price is short and the benefits long term.

Love and Rainbows ~ TJ

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